Heart vs. Mind: Who Deserves the Final Say?

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been the kind of person who lets my heart take the wheel while my brain sits in the passenger seat holding the map. Sure, my mind occasionally chimes in with a polite “I think you missed the turn,” but my heart usually replies with “Don’t worry, we’re taking the scenic route.”

And honestly? The scenic route has some incredible views.

I’ve always believed that emotions aren’t just messy impulses we’re meant to suppress. They’re clues, signals from somewhere deep that whisper, “This feels right,” or sometimes, “Run for your life.” I trust that whisper. Gut feelings are rarely loud, but they carry a kind of ancient wisdom I’ve learned to respect. I'm extremely emotional and I know that's not a great thing for me, but I like to believe that it is. It makes me empathise with people even if I'm upset with them, so perhaps it makes me a more understanding person.

But here’s the catch – while I may let my heart lead, my mind isn’t silenced. It’s more like my sister's voice in my head, who fact-checks everything and double-knots my emotional decisions to make sure I don’t trip. I think that’s the sweet spot – letting the heart speak first but allowing the mind to monitor the volume.

When My Heart Had the Mic (And My Brain Called for Backup):

I've always been told that I have a pure heart, devoid of any corruption. I'm afraid I don't rely on logic as much as I rely on feelings. That often gets me in trouble, because I would forgive anyone who wronged me, the second I start to empathise with them, which in my case, is in a few seconds. My parents worry about me because of this, because they feel that anyone can take advantage of me, but honestly, I don't really want to lose that quality anytime soon.

But Sometimes, the Brain Has a Point.

There are days when the heart wants what it wants – and it wants it now. In those moments, I’ve learned the value of pausing. Just because the heart tugs doesn’t mean the brain shouldn’t tug back. The mind often has the receipts – past lessons, past heartaches – and it can protect us from wandering into situations we think will make us happy but won’t.

The Harmony of Heart and Mind:

I don’t think it’s about one winning over the other. It’s about knowing which one deserves the microphone at the right time. If the heart drives passion and connection, the mind brings clarity and reason. Together, they make a pretty unbeatable team.

So, who gets the final say?

For me – the heart. Always the heart. But I keep my mind on speed dial, just in case. And if that doesn't work, I have a family who loves me unconditionally to protect me and guide me, especially my sister.